Am I a good mother?

Mothers want the very best for their child. You want to encourage their children best, always be there for him to do anything for him - and tear is full of bad conscience between family, job and home.

"Motherhood" has long since become a high-performance sport - and the mothers themselves remain all too often with their own needs on the track, but mothers may just be selfish and think of themselves, without any harm to the children equally.

Pleaded Corinne Knauff, Graduate remedial teacher and author ("I am a good mother!", Campus-Verlag). The expert makes women courage and exposes well known "good mother-mantra," with which mothers themselves day after day under pressure . set

Perfect Mothers do not do good for their children
In this day and age your child has grown into a project that the parents have successfully off the ground. Many mothers are put under enormous pressure to think and reason, you are only "good mothers" if they are perfect and everything - and thus their children - under control.

Mothers who are raising very confident after their own ideas and not afraid of failure, would give their offspring the other hand: "You, my child, are great as you are, and errors are not catastrophic," said the remedial teacher.

Curiosity, perseverance and pure love that and much more you can learn from your child

That's what makes a good mother

Today to be a good mother, it takes the opinion of the expert five traits:

First A mother should be empathic, to empathize with their child and his being able to perceive.

Second A good mother must be brave. You should be solved by social pressures and make unpopular decisions, even if it means sometimes be alone with the child, or stress.

Third A good mother is hungry for life. She lives not only for the welfare of her child, but also a life as a woman.

4th A mother needs to be politically incorrect today. The societal expectations of mothers today are so inflated that any relaxed mother is forced to rule, to conduct themselves on a daily basis, however.

5th A good mother is "down to earth." You should not chase the illusion that lead to a perfect storybook life with their children. In addition, they should accept themselves broadly as the mother she is, with all their weaknesses and mistakes.

Diploma Remedial teacher Corinna Knauff exposed 8 "good mother mantra":

First I have my child in the crucial first three years, mostly self-care and may not be available in a day care center.

First and foremost it's about what is the best way for the whole family. That is also the best for your child. If you are missing, for example, your job and you do not feel comfortable with it, the whole day to be at home with your baby, you and your family's total of maybe more so, if you work part time and your child during this time in a Kita is managed.

Second As a good mother, I must encourage my child as a baby with optimal early musical education, PEKIP and baby swimming, followed by English as a toddler, children's ballet and yoga.

Free play, relaxed social contact without competition and the good old reading are for the cognitive and emotional development of your child much more effectively than questionable promotional activities. You too can take so much as a mother stress! Most importantly, with his child to feel comfortable around. This may also be at home on the play mat. Interestingly, by the way are the toughest "critic-mothers" other mothers!

A kiss as the most beautiful proof: Yes, I am a good mother! (Photo: Thinkstock)

A kiss as the most beautiful proof: Yes, I am a good mother! (Photo: Thinkstock)

Third The bad behavior of my child falls back to my lack of parenting skills.

. Knauff Corinna. This "good mother's mantra," makes clear that many mothers have to contend with a chronic bad conscience if you think so, you are in themselves also permanently inflated claims your children - they are still as good educated - one must also test their boundaries or "next" to behave in order to learn from it.

Children can not always behave perfectly adapted. If you expect of them, you will always fail due to your ideal. The result is great guilt. Take your strict maternal ideal overboard! Go with yourself just how forgiving and loving with your children. Also, what makes good education.

4th Only if I ever do anything for my child and it will love me back as an adult looking for a good childhood.

5th As a good mother, I re-set my needs. First comes the family, then me.

6th As a good mother I am involved in nursery school and also when I was done the day at the office and with the family completely, and I would prefer to lie down on the couch.

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7th As a good mother, I must always know where my child is, what it does and with whom it meets.

8th As a good mother, I should take my child always earnest and integrate it into important decisions early on.

If you treat your child as an equal partner, take the same time as the guardians of the responsibility and challenge your child with it. Of course you may and should include your child in small decisions, such as which T-shirt to wear it or what it wants for breakfast. The choice of a holiday destination but leave your child alone to go too far....